America’s famous abortion mill, body parts vendor and political machine, Planned Parenthood, posted a little article to help you (a.k.a. a potential source of income for Planned Parenthood) decide if you should have an abortion.
Let’s go through their advice, little by little, to see if they are really providing solid information. The Planned Parenthood advice will be indented while my comments will be follow the indented portions in bold font:
Is abortion the right option for me?
Having an unintended pregnancy is very common, and many people decide to have an abortion. Only you know what’s best for you, but good information and support can really help you make the decision that is best for your own health and well-being.
In other words, Planned Parenthood wants you to believe that you are just one of many people who ended up with an unwanted baby in your womb. Without going into all the details regarding how that happens, they will just take care of that problem for you. And the decision is solely up to you! No other person on the face of the earth has the ability to suggest that you should not have an abortion. Not even your child can have a say in whether he or she lives or dies due to your decision. Planned Parenthood knows your boyfriend or husband would support your abortion if he knew you were pregnant, but hey, get your abortion now and he’ll never even know! You don’t have a boyfriend or a husband? Well, it’s even easier then isn’t it?
Why do people decide to have an abortion?
If you’re thinking about having an abortion, you’re so not alone. Millions of people face unplanned pregnancies every year, and about 4 out of 10 of them decide to get an abortion. Some people with planned pregnancies also get abortions because of health or safety reasons. Overall, 3 in 10 women in the U.S. will have an abortion by the time they’re 45 years old.
Again, Planned Parenthood says don’t feel like abortion is rare or that you are out of the ordinary if you decide to eliminate your child before he or she is born. Lots of women are doing it. Why not join the fun?
What garbage. This is a lie to coerce you into having an abortion.
Sometimes, the decision is simple. Other times, it’s complicated. But either way, the decision to have an abortion is personal, and you’re the only one who can make it.
Simple? We have rarely heard a mother say that her decision to have an abortion was simple. In fact, we almost always hear the opposite, even from the most ardent abortion activists and advocates.
Complicated? Isn’t that simply an attempt to tone down the shocking fact that even abortion advocates know that the decision to have an abortion is extremely difficult for the vast majority of mothers who have made that decision?
Oh, and once again, this is a private and deeply personal decision, so don’t let anyone influence you (except for us because we make a tidy profit off of the abortion and the sale of your baby’s organs).
Everyone has their own unique and valid reasons for having an abortion. Some of the many different reasons people decide to end a pregnancy include:
Unique? Not really. It is almost always the same or very similar reasons. Valid? Never.
Most abortions are executed because the mother is led to believe she is alone, has no alternative, will be impoverished, will be stuck in government housing for the rest of her life, will have to give up an education or a career or a relationship… More than 9 out of 10 abortions are due to fear and isolation.
Yes, I did say there is never a valid reason to have an abortion. I can explain that further if you wish, but that can be a separate discussion. The reasons provided by Planned Parenthood in their article most certainly do not include anything that can be considered close to a valid reason.
So let’s look at the “many different reasons” Planned Parenthood suggests:
They want to be the best parent possible to the kids they already have.
I don’t know how killing their child’s sibling can make Mom or Dad a better parent.
They’re not ready to be a parent yet.
Newsflash. Nobody is ready to be a parent. Those who thought they were, find out they were wrong (every single day). This includes your parents and their parents. The fact is, there are an abundance of people who are ready, willing and able, to help you every step of the way. All you have to do is ask. Well, you have to ask the right people. Planned Parenthood won’t tell you about these helpers because it is bad for their business. They are in the business of killing children, not raising them.
Not convinced? Ask around. Find a Crisis Pregnancy Center online, call a Crisis Pregnancy Hotline 1-800-712-HELP (1-800-712 4357) or 1-800-521-5530. You can also go online and find people to help https://standupgirl.com/girl-help/id-like-help
Oh, and never dismiss the option to choose adoption. They will tell you all about this on the hotlines and the website I just provided.
It’s not a good time in their life to have a baby.
Thanks Planned Parenthood, but didn’t we just cover this one? We are only 3 reasons into your list and you are out of reasons already? See my response to the similar reason above.
They want to finish school, focus on work, or achieve other goals before having a baby.
In other words, see the 2nd and 3rd reason above and also see my response above. This is easier than I thought it would be.
They’re not in a relationship with someone they want to have a baby with.
They’re in an abusive relationship or were sexually assaulted.
This is truly a terrible situation. There are people who can help you if you are in this situation. You can call the numbers or reach out to women’s shelters in your area. In Nebraska we have several such as Gianna’s House (402-474-1600) but in your area, you may need to call a national hotline such as 1-800-799-7233 or you can google “domestic abuse help”. You can also call your local law enforcement.
Here’s something Planned Parenthood will not tell you: having an abortion does not change your abusive relationship and it does not help you heal from your sexual assault. In fact, you will likely feel like you have been abused and/or assaulted in a new way if you choose to have an abortion.
Another thing Planned Parenthood will not tell you is that there are a number of cases over the years in which Planned Parenthood clinics and affiliates have not reported cases in which a reasonable person should suspect that a woman has been sexually assaulted.
The pregnancy is bad for their health.
I presume the Planned Parenthood writer is talking about a medical condition which makes the pregnancy a risk to you. If you have such a condition, modern medicine has developed some amazing treatments and care to make sure you are as safe as possible. You should be told that abortion is not risk-free either. You may develop complications from your abortion. You may be at a higher risk for certain cancers, such as breast cancer which is one of the deadliest forms of cancer, and you may end up infertile. Also, if you have an abortion, you are more likely to return for another abortion later in your life, making all of these risks (and more), recurring realities in your life.
You should also know that the Guttmacher Institute conducted a study of the reasons for abortions over the course of many years. The study showed that less than 3% of all abortions were performed due to a serious medical concern for the mother. The Guttmacher Institute is a pro-abortion institution. So the pro-life side didn’t make this up.
They just don’t want to be a parent.
I hope you realize this is a repetition of several of the above “reasons”. See the hotlines and websites I suggested above.
Deciding to have an abortion doesn’t mean you don’t want or love children.
Actually it does, at least for the child who will lose his or her life. I have an idea. If you do have children already, ask them if they want their sibling killed. I know you would never ask your children such an appauling question. This is because it is an appauling thing to kill a child. And you and I both know that your children would never want you to kill another child, especially their little brother or sister.
Most mothers who have had abortions hide it from their other children for as long as they can. There is a reason for this.
In fact, 6 out of 10 people who get abortions already have kids — and many of them decide to end their pregnancies so they can focus on the children they already have.
Well, that isn’t actually true. Some of the mothers don’t have custody of their already-born children, some have abortions for purely selfish reasons and most have the abortion out of fear as stated earlier in my comments. There is help available, but Planned Parenthood doesn’t like to bring that up… you know, the money thing is really important to Planned Parenthood. You on the other hand? Not so much.
And people who aren’t already parents when they get an abortion often go on to have a baby later, when they feel they are in a better position to be a good parent.
Often, not always. Some women never get pregnant again and some who do, lose their child in a miscarriage an abortion or other tragedies.
And what is a “good parent”? A excellent first step toward being a “good parent” is to not kill any of your children.
And a later born baby is not the same human being living inside of you right now. Abortion is not a time machine which erases a life from history as though the life never existed. The child in your womb actually exists today. An abortion only stops your child from living long enough to become your toddler, adolescent or the parent of your own grandchildren.
Many women spend the rest of their lives regretting their abortion. Many of them have counseling and therapy and still suffer from deep regret. Sadly, some women commit suicide, which is much more likely in women who have had an abortion than in the rest of the female population. In those cases, abortion end in two deaths, mother and child.
The bottom line is, deciding if and when to have a baby is very personal, and only you know what’s best for you and your family.
Hopefully you can see it now. With each summary, Planned Parenthood is trying to keep you from talking to those who can help you. They keep telling you that this is a “very personal decision” and “only you know” what is best for you and your family (which right now includes that baby inside of you). They want you to suffer with this quietly so that you believe your only way out is to hand them enough money to pay for the abortion. Don’t buy into this lie. Call those numbers and look at those websites I’ve provided above.
What can I think about to help me decide?
Family, relationships, school, work, life goals, health, safety, and personal beliefs — people think carefully about these things before having an abortion. But you’re the only person walking in your shoes, and the only person who can decide whether to have an abortion. The decision is 100% yours.
In other words, think about everything that will fill you with fear, confusion, anxiety, anything you can to keep you from thinking about the baby inside of you. Don’t forget that the baby inside of you is part of your family already. And you should know that mothers who sought an abortion but were unsuccessful, report that they love their child and are happy they didn’t have the abortion.
See once again how Planned Parenthood wants you to feel like you are the only one who can decide if you want an abortion. This is actually true, you are the only one who can decide to abort your child (this isn’t China after all), but you don’t have to come to that conclusion without talking with people who can explain beautiful alternatives to abortion. The decision is not 100% yours either. Try talking to the child inside of you. Ask your baby if he or she wants you to let Planned Parenthood perform the abortion.
Here are some things to consider if you are thinking about an abortion:
Am I ready to be a parent?
Again, nobody is, yet everyone is. Parenting is more rewarding than difficult. You should also know that nobody has ever been the perfect parent and that in spite of the day to day failings of the vast majority of parents in history, nearly every child ever born, has loved his or her parents deeply throughout their entire lifetime. There are the really bad exceptions on both the part of the parent and the child, but once again, there are a lot of people waiting to help you. You are not isolated or alone unless you buy into the lies of Planned Parenthood.
Would I consider adoption?
I’m surprised Planned Parenthood even brought this up. They probably feel pressured because so many pro-life advocates have pointed out their past reluctance to mention adoption as an option. But notice they don’t provide you with any information. The fact is, there are more parents on adoption waiting lists than there are children available for adoption. And most hopeful adoptive parents would love to adopt an infant (2 or 3 or more times), but will often end up adopting a child than is several months to years old. Giving your child to adoptive parents is one of the most loving things you can do, short of raising your child with your own love. Would you consider adoption? You certainly can. Maybe you should.
Check out http://www.adopt.org
What would it mean for my future if I had a child now?
What would it mean for my family if I had a child now?
How would being a parent affect my career goals?
You would be happy, your family would be happy and your career may even be more successful since you will have someone to support. Children are great incentives to give you a reason to love more, work harder and care more.
Do I have strong personal or religious beliefs about abortion?
Planned Parenthood hopes you don’t because it makes you easier to manipulate and mislead. But you should have strong beliefs on abortion. Abortion is one of the most divisive issues in America. Most people realize abortion is evil, but through propaganda, marketing and manipulated surveys, Planned Parenthood and the abortion industry want you to believe it isn’t as unpopular as it actually is.
No Christian can support or tolerate abortion because abortion is 100% contrary to love, 100% contrary to kindness and 100% contrary to the Bible. But there is even a group called “Secular Pro-Life” who educates people as to totally scientific reasons as to why abortion is evil and bad for everyone.
Is anyone pressuring me to have or not have an abortion?
Our culture certainly is pressuring you to have an abortion. The entertainment industry and Planned Parenthood are too. You may not even realize it, but for decades, there has been a consistent and intense campaign to make you believe that the child inside of you is nothing more than a lump of tissue and that lots of women have abortions and turn out just fine. That is a lie.
Many women are pressured into abortions by their boyfriends, parents, employers, their medical providers and their friends as well. If people are making you feel like you have to have an abortion for any reason at all, call the crisis hotline numbers I’ve provided above.
Would having a baby change my life in a way I do or don’t want?
Possibly, but it usually works out for the better. You may think you want one type of life but most women (an extremely high percentage) find that they are very happy after choosing life. And many women who choose abortion live with very deep sadness and regret, often turning to drugs, alcohol, risky behaviors, bad relationships in order to make them forget the pain.
Would having an abortion change my life in a way I do or don’t want?
Usually. Almost certainly. The average life span of a woman who has had an abortion is shorter than the rest of the female population. This is due to the depression, addictions and risky behaviors the abortive mother commonly adopts after the trauma of taking the life of her own child. Suicide is much more common in abortive mothers than for the average American female.
What kind of support would I need and get if I decided to get an abortion?
Very little, and if there is any, it is short-lived. If you seek counseling and support through Martha’s Vineyard or other post-abortion groups, you will receive it, but Planned Parenthood wants nothing to do with these groups or you. The only support you will find in the abortion industry are groups who want you to act as though the abortion was a great idea, very simple, regret-free and a wise decision. If you are unwilling to advertise for the abortion industry, they will push you away.
What kind of support would I need and get if I decided to have a baby?
A lot. Not only does the government have programs for you which include free schooling, wellness checks, medical care, housing and food assistance, but a large number of private groups offer these things to you as well. For instance, Omaha, Nebraska, has the Bethlehem House http://www.bethlehemhouseomaha.org and Lincoln and Southern Nebraska have Gianna’s Home http://www.cssisus.org/what_we_do/programs_services/social_services/st_giannas.html.
You can also call or visit the nearest Catholic Church, and they will often have numerous volunteers who can help you find a support network.
Decisions about your pregnancy are deeply personal. You hold the power to make decisions that are best for you in order to stay on your own path to a healthy and meaningful life.
They don’t stop with the brainwashing do they? They want to keep this all “hush hush” so you don’t reach out to those who love you, know you and care for you the most. They want you isolated and they want you to think that the only people you can trust are the people at the nearest abortion clinic or abortion referral service.
It is odd that they mention that you may want to stay on a path to a healthy and meaningful life. A healthy person cooperates with their body, they don’t undergo operations to deal with things that are not unhealthy. People who want a meaningful life make good decisions for all of their children, all of their family members and themselves. Sometimes these decisions are difficult, scary or painful, but the decisions almost never involve the death of another human being, especially an innocent human being.
There are lots of things to consider, and it’s totally normal to have many different feelings and thoughts when making this decision. That’s why it’s important to get factual, non-judgmental information about abortion. Support from family, friends, partners, and other people you trust can also be helpful. But at the end of the day, only you know what’s right for you.
Up until the 1960’s, it was highly abnormal to promote abortion. Until the last few years, we never heard women glorifying their abortions. The only feelings that are natural with regard to abortion are feelings of repulsion, sadness and horror. Only through extensive marketing has Planned Parenthood been able to make some people (not many) think that abortion is good. But if you ask any abortion advocate one on one, whether abortion is good or bad, you are most likely to hear them say that at best, it is unfortunate. They don’t even believe their own lies. Why should you?
And once again, they want to make sure you believe that the decision is so personal, that only you can make it. Don’t believe that lie either. They give an off-hand remark about your family members, but then they try to dupe you into thinking that even your family members can’t really help you make the best decision here. The sad part is, some family members will also encourage abortion. They want you to talk to those family members. They don’t want you to confide in any family members or friends who would encourage you to have your child or put your child into an adoptive home.
Who can I talk with about getting an abortion?
Call the hotlines I’ve provided above. Those are the people who are trained to give you the best assistance, support and advice. Never turn to Planned Parenthood or any other abortion provider or abortion referral service because they make money off of abortions and they will always pressure you into having an abortion and will never give you the truth about adoption or raising your child yourself.
The article goes on and on, but you get the idea. Avoid Planned Parenthood. They have a financial interest in persuading you to kill your own child.